How to use Romance to Kindle our Marriage

                                                Romance as a Foreign Language.

Do you want to kindle romance in your marriage? Why is it difficult to listen to our spouses and learn the language that speaks most directly to them. Where were the flowers and cards and verbal sweet- nothings that would fuel my fire? Unfortunately, kindling romance takes time and patience, and sometimes it means mastering a foreign language of love. Below are three process to becoming bilingual in the languages of romance:

1.Learn the language of love: Kindling romance means learning to communicate your love to your husband in the terms he understands best, even if it not your native tongue! The first step is to ask. Simply ask your husband to describe the nonsexual and … that “say” something to him. They have the power to

·        Comfort him

·        Turn him sexually

·        Make him feel appreciated

·        Let him know that you respect him

·        Demonstrate the depth of your love for him

2. Recognize the language of love: It’s one thing to learn to speak the lingo your husband feels most comfortable with; it’s another thing to learn to recognize what your husband is trying to tell you when he uses that same lingo to communicate to you. What are your husband’s patterns? What messages is he sending your way? Can you begin to appreciate those messages? Do those messages give you any insights into ways you can better speak to him.

3. Teach the language of love: You’ve asked your husband for his “wish list” and used it to tailor your words and deeds to meet his needs. You’ve made an effort to recognize and affirm his gestures of love toward you, no matter how different they are from what you long for. Keep the following in mind;

·        Don’t be defensive. Avoid statements beginning with the words, “you never do such and such”.

·        Do look for relaxed and intimate moments in which to broach the subject when your husband might be most open to your ideas.

·        Don’t let any one item on your list become a deal breaker. Your goal is to encourage your husband to communicate in words and actions that are meaningful to you.

·        Do be direct, without being confrontational. Your husband may honesty unaware of the fact that back rubs unlock the door to your love.

·        When possible, do explain what’s in it for him.

Make the effort. Take the time. Learn his language. Teach him yours. Practice patience, be diligent, have faith. You, too, can become bilingual in the languages of the heart.

Enthusiasm In our marriage?

   

How do we Communicate Greater Enthusiasm In our marriage?

ü    List your spouse’s best qualities in alphabetical order.

ü    Notice the little changes your spouse makes in his appearance.

ü    Give your spouse a back rub.

ü    Remember to look into your spouse’s eyes as he tells you about the day.

ü    Tell your spouse, “I’m glad I married you!”

ü    Sit on the same side of a restaurant booth.

ü    Send your spouse a love letter.

ü    Give your mate a foot massage.

ü    Tell your spouse, “I’d rather be here with you than any place in the world.”

ü    Whisper something romantic to your spouse in a crowded room.

ü    Perfume the bedsheets.

ü    Serve breakfast in bed.

ü    Kiss in the rain.

ü    Brush his hair.

ü    Dedicate a song to him over the radio.

ü    Wink and smile at your spouse from across the room.

ü    Have a hot bubble bath ready for him at the end of a long day.

ü    Buy new satin sheets.

ü    Take time to think about him during the day, then share those thoughts.

ü    Compliment physical features.

ü    Flirt with your husband.

ü    Make an investment into your relationship with your spouse.

ü    Last but not the list, ask your spouse what communicates enthusiasm to him or her.

An ideal husband.

                                                                           I  NEED

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                                              HUSBAND!

Every woman needs a husband. An ideal husband. This is her desire and expectation. She needs an ideal companion. The one with whom she we live joyfully till good old age. Any quality short of ideal is far too low for her. She needs a husband who is highly responsible, who can stand as the head of the family. She needs a husband who is able to lead successfully and tenderly the wife and children such that they will recognize his position, respect and honour him and care for one another unreservedly.

She needs a husband who can easily take decision for the family because he is knowledgeable both in spiritual and secular affairs. He knows the best decision to take on behalf of the family that will really benefit his wife, children and self. The kind of husband the woman wants is one who will not abdicate his responsibilities and expect his wife to play the role of the husband.

Her expectation from her husband is that he should:

q       Be a partner indeed and gainfully employed.

q       Be loving and caring.

q       Be wise in communication.

q       Be reliable, realistic and considerate.

q       Be ready to please her in all things.

q       Be able to patiently study conduct, lifestyle, habits and make adjustments where necessary.

q       B studious and knowledgeable.

q       Be diligent and hardworking, not lazy.

q       Be cheerful not moody.

q       Be a generous giver, sometimes giving her surprise gifts.

q       Be prayerful, waiting on the Lord, respecting and honouring God and leading other members of the family in doing same.

q       Be reading at all times to defend and protect her dignity and personality in the presence of visitors, in-laws, friends and outsider.

q       Be appreciative of all her efforts. Learn to say nice things such as “thank you” “I appreciate you” “I love you” “God bless you”.

q       Be committed and faithful to the marriage vows for life, leaving and cleaving to his wife only.

q       Be available to hear her discussion.

q       Be patient with her even when she offends.

q       Be filled with forgiving spirit and not retaliating or revengeful.

q       Be holy in conscience.

q       Humble enough to admit his faults and apologise.

 With all these qualities fulfilled in the husband, the wife will be happy and great shall be the joy in the family.

How to Tell if a Guy Likes you - Five Signs He's Interested.

How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people. Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read?

Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:

1. He tells someone

Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you're from. He is trying to act like he's "just asking" but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.

2. The look

He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.

3. The conversation

Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No." Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn't ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.

4. He appears unexpectedly

He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.

5. EVERYONE likes you

Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn't he like you? Of course he does. If you don't have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won't matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.

These are the five signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin.

 

4 WAYS TO WIN YOUR SPOUSE HEART AND AVOID BROKEN HEART.

Cooking experience is necessary to win a man:

Man love woman who can cook delicious dinner. Dinners and a touch of romance make the heart grow fonder. Not all meals have to be5-star meals, but the taste is more important. Learn to cook is favorite foods.

Bedroom activities:

Bedroom activities are another way to win a man’s heart. Men enjoy a good time in the bedroom and sexual activities are always a way to win a man’s heart. Learn to experiment with different position and types of sexual pleasure.

Keep a clean House:

Men are always looking for a woman who can clean, cook and look beautiful all the time. Keep everything tidy and never leave dirty dishes or dirty laundry lying around.

Understanding:

Understanding is another way to win a man. A man needs an understanding woman.

The Pillow talk: The intimate Marriage from A to Z.

Everyone knows that good sex requires a generous dose of dedication and attention. Every woman needs time, touch and talk. But All we want is a little romance… what we get instead is real life. Great sex doesn’t just happen. No, romance in real life is characterized by misunderstandings, missed signals, overdue bills and overzealous expectations. Real life is making love to a man who wears his black dress socks to bed.

      Ask what you Need in the Bedroom…Did Cinderalla make things easy for the prince by giving him her address or even her name? Of course not.

      Did sleeping beauty leave written instruction by the side of the bed: “ To awaken princess, kiss once”No way.

      Did Juliet alert Romeo to the fact that the poison she consumed was, indeed, temporary and that he was supposed to cool his heels and wait for her to regain consciousness so they could live together forever? Not a chance.

I believe there are four myths that discourage many women from being more verbal about their sexual needs and desires. They hinder us from being honest in the bedroom and help foster our expectations that our man can and should know instinctively.

·        Men are omniscient

·        Boys will be boys

·        Woman don’t have needs…sexual or otherwise

·        Nice woman don’t talk about sex

A woman said her husband idea of foreplay was the time it took to lock the bedroom door.

The truth is that man are not omniscient.

Men are not fragile

Nice woman need sex too

Communication in the bedroom is the key

    For the married or about –to-be married, “Pillow talk” is what you need. Brimming with humor and tongue in check observation.

·        Ask for what you need in the bedroom

·        Beat the bedroom blues

·        Celebrate your sexuality